Help Guides - Planning Ahead


One second, you’re crying, and the next, you’re…laughing?!  End of life is often filled with reminiscing.  Families gather, and stories start coming out.  Before long, although you’re all filled with sadness, you’re remembering the time that mom sang karaoke at the church fair, or the ridiculous straw hat dad used to wear to embarrass the kids, and you’re roaring with laughter.  It feels like sacrilege, to be laughing at such a sad time, but it’s completely normal.  Life is complicated; loss is complicated.  We are often happy and sad at the same time.  You might even feel relieved at someone’s death – happy that their suffering is coming to an end – even while you’re sad and outraged.