Help Guides - Planning Ahead

I’m Not Grieving, I’m Furious!

You might be imagining that soap opera bedside end of life scene, where everyone is quietly crying.  But that may be the last thing you feel like doing.  You may be boiling with outrage.  Believe it or not, that’s grief too.  You have every right to be angry that a person you love is facing illness and the end of their life.  You might be angry at God, at the universe, at everyone with healthy family members, even at the person themselves for leaving you.  None of this makes you a monster, and all of it is normal.  You might find it helpful to talk to another family member about this feeling (probably they’re experiencing it too, but are too afraid to voice it).  Or you may feel more comfortable speaking to a chaplain.  Chaplains can help you strategize for what to do with your anger so that it doesn’t consume you.