Grief and Loss

People Keep Telling Me to Let It Out

Well-meaning people will say lots of unhelpful things to you when you’re grieving.  There is no right way to grieve.  Many people cry, some scream, some stomp their feet.  But other people sit quietly.  Others run.  They draw, paint, and write poetry.  They sculpt.  They hug a close friend.  They want to be alone.  You may want to talk.  You may not want to talk.  You may want to talk one minute and then change your mind.  That’s ok.  You may have no idea what you need.  In that case, talking to a chaplain might be helpful.  Chaplains or another trusted counselor can hear where you are, and may hear things you can’t; they may be able to help you develop strategies that work for you.